This is a question I struggled with for years, before I eventually got divorced.
The biggest problem with having this question on your mind during your marriage, is that you’re stuck in my least favourite place on earth.
Liverpool.
Only kidding, ya Scousers!
You’re stuck in an even worse place than Liverpool – you’re stuck in LIMBO.
You spend years wondering if it would be worse for you, your partner and your kids for you to leave… instead of just leaving to find out.
Or you spend years wondering if you have what it takes to make it work, and if it’s even worth all that effort… instead of just committing 100% and eliminating all thoughts of ever leaving (for a set period of time), and then seeing how much you can actually enjoy the marriage.
You know you’re in Limbo (neither here, nor there), if you take the “Marriage Happiness Assessment” and rate your marriage between a 5 and 7.
That means it’s “okay”.
Okay is TERRIBLE.
It’s worse than a 2.
With a 2 out of 10 marriage, at least you know it’s terrible. With a 5 or 6, it’s not bad enough to make any changes but not good enough for you and your partner to actually enjoy the greatest blessing on God’s green earth:
Marriage.
If you know your marriage isn’t great, but you’re not sure where to begin improving things… or if you think your marriage might not actually be save-able, but you want to be sure… either way, I’d recommend you watch The Conscious Marriage Workshop.
It gives you some of the key mindsets and perspective shifts to make hanging out with your partner the favourite thing in your life.
If that seems like a stretch or impossible to you, then you definitely ought to watch it. (You’re either with the wrong partner, in which case the faster you get clarity the better… or you’re with a great partner, but you’re showing up in a way that’s been bringing out the worst in them).
For most people, one or two of the ‘tweaks’ suggested, will get you showing up more like your best, most Prophetic self.
Check it out now:
