I once had a female client who was quite frustrated, because after going through the “Meet Him and Marry Him” program, she would end up meeting great guys… but sometimes the guys just didn’t know how to interact in any kind of attractive way.
There was one guy she was telling me about who – the first time they met in person – was dressed in a hoodie and really ugly, torn, dirty shoes.
When they met up, he couldn’t choose where to take her on the date, and kept asking her where she would like to go.
When they eventually got to a restaurant that she knew about in the area, he was very indecisive, and couldn’t even decide where to sit.
When they started talking, he immediately started asking about how many kids she wanted, whether she wanted to work after they have kids, what kind of house he was planning on living in… and this was before they had any rapport or even knew each other at all.
To add to that, he wasn’t in good physical shape.
His beard was dis-shevelled.
He clearly didn’t look after himself.
And as if it couldn’t get any worse… he didn’t know what he wanted to do for a living.
He had been in between jobs for a while, and didn’t seem to have any passion about where he wanted to go in life.
By the end of the conversation, it was clear to me that even though this may have been a really nice, practicing Muslim guy with really good intentions, at the rate he was going…
He would struggle to pick up a “Hur Ain” (wide-eyed maiden) in Jannat al Fidaus (the highest level of paradise).
Being a nice guy is not enough to attract a woman and get married.
Much like Liam Neeson, you need to develop a very specific set of skills. Not crazy assassin skills. Just basic ‘dating’ skills. And they don’t teach you that in Madrassa.
Fortunately I cover some of them in this online masterclass for Muslim men who want to find a wife:
