So, it’s finally time for that first ‘taqwa date’ (Note: I call them ‘taqwa dates’ or ‘conscious dates’ because you’re approaching it with the intention of finding lasting love and marriage, not to waste time and energy ‘playing’), with someone that could insha’Allah turn out to be ‘the one’.
But before we get to that stage, there’s one very important thing we need to figure out.
What the heck do you do on your first date?
Sure you could meet in a coffee shop or go for dinner, or, if you’re the guy…
…perhaps choose to do something a lot more ‘out there’ and unexpected, which will make it almost impossible for her to forget you.
But location aside…I want to highlight one very important thing about where you choose to go. It’s where you – as the guy – choose to go.
That’s right, you need to be the one to take the lead and make the decision as to what you do that day.
Women love it when a man takes the lead, shows initiative, and seems to effortlessly come up with a plan for the date.
In fact, most women would prefer you choose the activity, restaurant, where to sit when you get there etc. – even if she doesn’t like the choice – than go to places she likes, but having to make all the decisions herself.
They might not reveal this to you, but inside, they’re secretly very pleased and are already thinking that this leadership quality that they see in you, would make for a great future husband and father to their children. The simple move on your part to make the decisions and take the lead can say so much about you..
However….
Even more important than taking the lead and making decisions, is being able to differentiate between being a masculine, confident leader and a controlling, arrogant and overbearing man-child.
There’s a very fine line between the two.
Stay on the good side of this line and the woman you’re speaking with will likely find you irresistibly attractive and want to spend much more time getting to know you. Accidentally veer on to the wrong side of this line however, and she’ll be running for the hills in no time… and likely straight into the arms of another man.
So how do you know when you’re about to cross over onto the wrong side of the line?
The answer is very simple but very deep at the same time.
And it’s one of the first things we’ll cover at my upcoming event ‘Meet & Marry The One’.
During this event you’ll not only discover how to stay on the safe side of this line (as the Prophet did, peace & blessings upon him), but you’ll also learn how to embody the 7 most important prophetic qualities that all women are looking for – and irresistibly attracted to – in a man.
And if you join today, you’ll get a huge Early Bird discount on the standard ticket:
