Do you know what the number one most attractive quality is in a human being?
During live events, I’ll often ask the women in the audience, what’s the number one most attractive quality in a man? Usually the first response is: “Confidence”.
However, when I ask the same audience, what’s the number one most attractive quality in a woman? Most people pause for thought.
I’ll give you a hint, it’s not physical.
The most attractive quality in a woman is actually also confidence.
Pretty women get attention from men, but if that was enough, they would all automatically have awesome relationships, which clearly isn’t the case.
A beautiful woman will catch a man’s eye. A confident woman can capture his heart and mind.
Confidence in a woman is what lets the man know that they better treat her with respect and they better not mess this up. It’s what gives her the ability to be very clear about what she wants without fearing, worrying or getting insecure about whether or not she’ll lose the guy – especially in the case where he doesn’t want to commit properly to marriage in the way that she hopes he will.
My wife, Rachida, is very confident in herself. She knows she’s a catch. And it’s one of the reasons I fell in love with her.
The problem with courses that train you on how to be confident is that they often involve some form of technique that will help you to “fake it until you make it”. I never teach that kind of stuff because I’ve found something much more deep, powerful and profound. It’s a realization of how the mind works.
And when you get it, you don’t need to “fake it till you make it” because you realize you’ve actually had it all along.
All of the confidence you need is already within. All insecurity is just an illusion created by thought. The moment you can see the power of thought, you can effortlessly drop those illusions and naturally fall into your default state of confidence.
You’ll no longer need to pump yourself up and get confident in order to perform because confidence will already be there, as your natural default.
In order to fall into a natural, lasting state of confidence, all that’s required is for you to go through the psychological switch. It’s a deeper understanding of the mind that lets you drop all the Psychological Illusions that cause insecurity and aligns you with the Psychological Reality.
