A few years ago, a guy came to me in his mid 40s and for some reason that was kind of hard to figure out at the start… he had never been married.
He was perfectly eligible in every way. Relatively good looking. Great job. He was making a decent amount of effort to meet new people and starting potential relationships.
But something was getting in the way…
The trouble was that he was trying everything he could find in the world of “mainstream” dating and relationship advice, to try and figure out the right things to do to attract his ideal partner.
The challenge is that a lot of that stuff is kind of, well… gross!
General dating advice for men doesn’t work particularly well for Muslim men. There are a lot of reasons for this. But underneath it all is the basic premise that our outcome is not to hook up or get the lady into bed as quickly as possible. Our outcome is to find our optimal partner and set up a strong foundation for a long term marriage and ideally a family.
He tried out a few of the techniques he was learning. But something didn’t sit right with him, because as well as being a perfectly eligible bachelor, he was also a strong believer.
After a few short months of us working together, he started to reframe his journey and search. He got a deep understanding of The Psychological Switch. He dropped all of his insecurity and angst around being good enough and worthy enough for his ideal partner.
He let go of the heartbreak he had recently experienced right before we started talking. (This wasn’t the first time he had experienced heartbreak, but it was the most difficult from what he told me).
After flipping The Psychological Switch, it completely turned the table on his relationship search. Not only did he not need the other typical dating advice that’s out there. But now he didn’t need to make himself look confident and like a leader and a family man… because he genuinely became one.
And ultimately, within a few short months, he found his optimal partner and got married.
If you want to know everything he discovered fast-track your journey to love that lasts, whether you’re a man or a woman, the best way is to talk with a professional Certified Switch Coach.
They will quickly help you identify what your ideal marriage journey looks like, what’s been getting in the way until now and support you to create an action plan that makes your success inevitable.
Here’s where you can start your journey to meeting and marrying your optimal partner:
