There are hundreds if not millions of ways in which The Psychological Illusion that something other than thought has the power to cause your feelings, messes up your life and leads you into Psychological and Spiritual trouble.
Here are seven particular ways that it leads us into ego traps, behaviours and roles that we play unconsciously when we don’t know where feeling comes from.
- The Materialist – If you believe things cause feelings, you spend your life trying to get your hands on lots of expensive things.
- The Control Freak – This is someone who believes they have to control everyone and everything in order to be okay. They tend to get very angry when people don’t do what they say and when people don’t do exactly what they want, the moment they want it.
- The Procrastinator – If you firmly believe that your feelings depend on an outcome, and there’s a good chance the outcome won’t turn out the way that you want, then you might fill yourself with fear of taking action and then procrastinate, delay and put off taking action altogether. The result? A lot of unfinished, and sometimes un-started, projects.
- The Manipulator – This is someone who is constantly concerned about what everyone else is feeling and as a result, tries to arrange things based on making other people have the feelings that the Manipulator wants. This person might tell you what they think you want to hear, and then might tell somebody else the opposite. In essence they’re trying to make everyone to do what they want, usually with a good intention, because they ultimately want everyone to be happy. They just lie, deceive and manipulate people in an attempt to cause that happiness.
- The People Pleaser – This is someone who wants everyone to be happy and will do anything and everything to make it so. If a man falls for this trap, he will never be particularly attractive to a woman (who can sniff this insecurity-based ego trap out from a mile away).
- The Victim – This is someone who believes that their undesirable, bad, negative circumstances cause their feelings and as a result, their life seems to get worse and worse. They genuinely believe that they are a complete victim to the circumstances of their life. As a result, they become one.
- The Complainer – This is someone who does exactly what it says on the tin. They complain a lot. Oftentimes, you’ll catch them complaining about the other six character traits. Sometimes they complain about people complaining. The complainer often doesn’t have the courage to make the changes they want in their life, in their marriage, in their family, or in their circumstances… but they do get a side benefit from simply complaining about their situation the whole time. Sometimes they’re victims, sometimes they’re control freaks, sometimes they’re manipulators and sometimes all of these ego traps are wrapped into one.
If you want to free yourself from these ego traps… or if you want to know how to best deal with other people who display these difficult character traits… then the best thing to do is to speak with a Certified Switch Coach (who, I can assure you, definitely doesn’t have any of these characteristics).
Here’s where to find one:
