A lot of couples have an unspoken rule: you NEVER use the D-word.
No matter how bad an argument gets, or how fed up you are with your partner, you still never play around with the idea of getting a divorce.
In my experience… this is a LOT wiser than couples who are threatening each other with it all the time and being loose with their tongues.
However, there is a huge downside of making “Divorce” a complete taboo.
If you operate your entire marriage as if neither of you could ever possibly leave it, and to act like it’s “as-if-haram” to even talk about it, then you might end up, completely…
Taking each other for granted.
However, there is a third, much more healthy, balanced way to look at your marriage, that doesn’t lead to you misusing the D-Word… but also doesn’t keep you in denial about the possibility of it until it’s too late.
And that is:
Acknowledge that your partner could end the marriage any time they want… and marry anyone they want. And they would be just fine – and may even do great without you.
AND…
Acknowledge that you could end the marriage any time you want… and marry anyone you want. And you would be just fine – and may even do great without them.
When that’s clear to both of you, and when it works both ways, something wonderful might just happen:
You become so deeply grateful and appreciative of the blessing of having your partner in your life. You literally see them as someone who is blessing you with their presence each day, rather than someone you have to put up with and who will never leave.
Here’s a reality check: The only real reason to stay together these days… is because you both genuinely want to. The old-skool times of trying to use force, money and manipulation to try to keep them with you are coming to an end.
Fortunately, there is something much more powerful and effective that we were taught by our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings upon him.
It’s called:
Love.
If you want to have a truly conscious (taqwa-based) marriage, that’s designed to maximise the amount of love you both feel and give to each other, join us next week for this special online workshop :
