At some point when a client goes through coaching with me they’ll experience a life-changing earth-shattering insight that leads to a deep profound connection with Allah and leads to dropping a tremendous amount of insecure thinking and the behaviours that result from it.
And more often than not, a few days after that happens, they ask me something along the lines of:
“This is wonderful. I’m in the best state I’ve ever been in, in my life. But…
…How do I change my husband…?”
Sometimes, it’s their husband, sometimes it’s the wife, and sometimes it’s their kids who are getting themselves in trouble… and almost always across the board, it’s their in laws.
No matter how deep and profound their personal transformation was, sooner or later, virtually every client brings up the question: “I’m fine, now. But what do I do about [insert family member’s name]”?
This question is the ego’s way of sneaking in and trying to sabotage the tremendous progress that the client just made.
It’s a way for the client’s ego to say okay, “Hey, I’m good now. Now let’s focus my attention on changing them because if they change, then… aahhhh, then my life will be sooo much better.”
The truth of the matter is that once you go through ‘The Spiritual Switch’, no one else in your family needs to change for your life to get better.
The deeper point is that when you deeply and profoundly change from within yourself, it has an absolute impact on everyone else in your family, and on your relationships with them. People who used to annoy you, no longer seem to bother you. People you used to fear, you now almost feel sorry for. Family members who used to be verbally abusive can’t seem to touch you any more – it’s like you’re invicible to their bad behaviour, and they know it.
As the Quran says: “We will not change the state of the people, until they change within themselves” [literally ‘what is in their egos’]
If you want the clearest, most direct path to change yourself, by changing your mindset in a way that connects you with Allah, turns you into your best self and has a profound effect on everyone in your family… Check out my soon-to-be-launched coaching programme, The Spiritual Switch, here:
