Some people are wronged and when the natural feelings of negativity, upset and disappointment come up, they immediately let them go and move on with their lives.
And then there’s the rest of us.
Through my years of coaching, I’ve met countless people who many years after the fact are still holding on to a grudge.
Oftentimes it’s a family member who they never thought would disappoint them. And for some reason, it very often has to do with “the land back home”.
I remember at one of my live events, there was a lady who had been holding on to a grudge because she had been wronged and not given the correct inheritance from her family members after her father passed away several years later… and she had intense negative feelings towards her family.
During the event, I shared some insights about presence and taught the key insight behind the psychological switch, and as a result, this lady and everyone in the room dropped all negativity and grudges.
The process is very simple and very powerful.
But instead of sharing that with you, let me tell you how to hold onto a grudge for the rest of your life.
It’s very simple:
Step One: Be wronged by other people or a situation.
Step Two: Bring it to mind and feel really bad about it and frustrated and upset.
Step Three: As you feel the feeling of upset and anger, play the story back again over and over in your mind. And notice how the feeling grows over time.
Step Four. When it gets too bad, and you can’t handle it, suppress the feeling and go and do something else like watch television, so you get a bit of temporary relief.
Step Five: Get into an altercation with the person who wronged you by trying to express how you feel to them.
Step Six: When they get upset and argue back, take it to heart.
Step Seven: Never, ever let it go. Don’t be like Elsa from Frozen. She’s a liar.
Now, I’m not saying I recommend this simple seven step process. I’m merely pointing out the fact that I’ve worked with dozens, maybe hundreds of people, who use this seven step process to great effect.
However, if instead you want to learn the simplest way to let go of grudges and negative feelings towards family members, your partner, or anyone… then there’s a simple one step process:
Book in a session.
To apply for a “Session” with me, the first step is to sign up for the Switch Masterclass and watch it carefully:
