The other day my wife Rachida accidentally let slip her secret to attracting and marrying her dream guy…
…and in doing so she gave away one of the biggest, almost never talked about secrets to setting and achieving every goal, from business, to health and relationships.
Here’s the story:
Before she met her Brown Prince Charming, she made a very conscious decision to stop investing any energy in, and essentially ‘cutting out’, all of her male friends and colleagues. It wasn’t an abrupt, needy, religious-zealot kind of thing. And most of them probably didn’t even notice it happened.
It was just an insight she had: what’s the point in having a bunch of guy friends who I’m not really into? She has great energy and plenty of carefully curated friends, but just realised she didn’t need more friends who are men. She understood that, counter-intuitively, guy friends are only energetic distractions from her goal of meeting the guy who’s right for her.
(By the way, if you’re an attractive woman and you don’t think your male friends are attracted to you, you’re either kidding yourself, or you think you’re not attractive. Either way, you could do with a perspective shift, which you’ll get from “Meet Him & Marry Him”.)
The other day, when Rachida mentioned this insight to me off-the-cuff, it dawned on me:
Just as a guy should NEVER let himself get “Friend Zoned” by any woman …
…In the same way, the bigger and more filled up a woman’s “Friend Zone” is, the less space there is for her to attract her Dream Man.
In other words… they’re a total waste of mental and emotional energy, insofar as the goal of getting married is concerned. Rachida was filling the space in her life for a husband with a much less optimal alternative: lukewarm guys.
And therein lies the secret:
To attract what you really want, cut out the proverbial “Friend Zone” of all the nice things that you don’t really want.
Be Red Hot, or Stone-Cold.
Be a ‘Hell Yes’, or a ‘Hell No’
Nothing in between is even worth it.
This isn’t just true for relationships. It’s true for all our goals.
A lot of us fill up our lives with “Friend Zone Goals” instead of cutting out all the unnecessary goals and tasks to create space for the ONE Goal we really want, that’ll have a bigger impact on our lives than all the others put together.
That’s why I’m kicking off the New Year with one of my all-time best-selling programs:
Dreams To Destiny.
It shows you how to eliminate your “Friend Zone Goals” to create abundant time, space and energy for you to inevitably achieve the ONE Goal that really matters.
Here’s where dreams come true:
