As a professional coach, over the last decade I’ve seen a lot of gimmicks that tried to teach people how to get rid of their bad feelings and limiting beliefs.
And over the years, I’ve only found one or two things that actually help.
There is a particular method that I use myself and that I encourage my clients to use when a negative feeling occurs. And there’s a deeper understanding of how the mind works, which I recommend everybody learn before any negative feeling occurs.
The method I use is called the “Inner Salam Method”.
And the understanding is what I call, “The Psychological Switch”.
So that’s what I would do… But I don’t want this email to have false advertising in it. Instead, let me tell you exactly what to do to make a negative feeling stick around for ages.
- Step One: As soon as a negative feeling occurs, ask yourself the question, “Why am I feeling this way?”
- Step Two: Let the mind come up with all kinds of reasons and explanations involving all of the people and situations around you.
- Step Three: As you think more about the situation, you may notice yourself getting even more angry or upset.
- Step Four: When you see the person and you’re reminded of the situation and notice yourself becoming angry or upset, try to address it with them while you’re in a negative state.
- Step Five: Eventually when you can’t take it anymore, distract yourself and go and do something else to numb the senses. Social media is especially good for this step.
- Step Six: When the thoughts come back again and you feel upset again, tell yourself that this must be a really big deal and it’s really important that I think about it more. And the more upset you get, the more you should think about it over and over again.
- Step Seven: By now you’ve probably wasted many hours of torturing yourself in your own mind. Well done. You’re starting to get the hand of how to make a feeling stick around for ages.
As you can see, it’s a very simple seven step process. And chances are you’re already a master of it. The funny thing is, a lot of people think the first step actually is the way out of the negative feeling. But rest assured it will only send you deeper and deeper into it.
If you’re fed up of having recurring bouts of anger, fear, guilt, or sadness and especially if it’s causing you to have conflicts with the people around you, then I recommend you get some coaching. You’ll soon be living more and more in a default state of peace, love and happiness, like thousands of my readers, clients and students have over the years.
If you’re ready to get started, you know what to do:
