True story.
A few years ago, I was generously gifted a free ticket to a Tony Robbins “Unleash the Power Within” event.
And it was a delightful experience.
I went to the event a couple of years after discovering “The Spiritual Switch” (aka. The Psychological Switch) so during the event, I had a deep understanding of where my feelings truly come from – and of the fact that I don’t actually need any “ninja” NLP mindset techniques to feel better.
I was in a state of mind where I had no insecurity and as a result, I could thoroughly enjoy the event without taking it too seriously. There was good music, lots of jumping up and down, and fun visualisation exercises. And of course, the great Tony Robbins is perhaps one of the best public speakers on the face of the earth today. It also had a special meaning for me because I originally got into coaching thanks to a Tony Robbins CD set.
As soon as I got to the event I met a new friend.
And we immediately clicked – perhaps because he was one of the only other brown guys there!
We partnered up to do the exercises together and we had a great time – we set our goals, we envisioned a wonderful future and we both happily strolled over red hot coals.
Here’s where it gets interesting…
A couple of months later, we decided to meet up in cafe in Barcelona which is where I lived back then.
He asked me how I’ve been doing and I told him that life’s been wonderful. I’m having a great time. I’m enjoying the city. I’m enjoying work. I’m closer than ever with my family. I’m feeling spiritually connected, and all round things are going great.
I asked him how he’s been.
He honestly, humbly responded… “Not good at all, Mamoon!”.
He told me that right after the Tony Robbins event, he was totally pumped up with bigger goals than he had ever set before, with bigger hopes and aspirations than he had ever had before… And soon after that, he spent the next two weeks lying in bed being completely depressed.
I consoled him.
Later in the conversation he asked me about my family.
I mentioned that my sister had actually passed away quite soon after the Tony Robbins event (may Allah have mercy on her).
He was completely stunned and taken aback.
It was hard for him to fathom that even though my dear beloved sister had passed away that I was not beat up about it. And I wasn’t depressed. And I was dealing with it with a certain amount of grace and supporting my family through it. This really struck him because in practical terms, no major event had happened in his life.
His circumstances were exactly the same as they were before the Tony Robbins event, but he was totally depressed. My circumstances were dramatically different and objectively worse, to before the Tony Robbins event, and yet I was in a completely peaceful state of mind.
Immoral of the story?
As long as we are in the illusion that our feelings are determined by the events and circumstances of our lives, we can go through the best personal development training and seminars and do all the ‘mind-tricks’ in the world and it won’t do us a lick of good.
But the moment we realise the truth of where our feelings really come from, we can enjoy all of the personal development entertainment that’s out there. But deep down in the depths of our souls, we know that we are completely okay. And nothing in this world – not even death and loss – have the power to take our “okay-ness” away.
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