There are six very attractive internal qualities that make you marriage material.
If you have these qualities, irrespective of your personal circumstances, potential spouses won’t help but be attracted to you and will almost be lined up around the block wanting to have your attention.
But if you don’t have these qualities or can’t demonstrate them, then you need to get extremely lucky to find a spouse.
You might not have noticed it, but we’ve actually already covered all six qualities your potential spouse is looking for, in the last six emails. (But you knew that already, because you obviously read all of my emails all the way through, right?)
Here’s a summary of the six qualities
- Detachment – how to be ‘outcome independent’ by not having your feelings ride on your relationship status or the state of your love-life
- Resilience – how to keep going in your epic search for the optimal spouse, even when the chips are down, you’ve been rejected and dumped, and there’s no light to be seen in the tunnel of halal dating apps.
- Confidence – how to return to your natural state of inner-peace and confidence, effortlessly, without doing weird mind-tricks or trying to ‘fake it til you make it’.
- Loving leadership – how to inculcate the leadership qualities that let your potential spouse know that you’re the one to start a family with.
- Attraction – how attraction works, how it doesn’t work, and how to use this knowledge to deal with all kinds of relationship situations and drama that this ‘inconvenient’ state put us in
- Presence – how to be deeply present, so you can effortlessly connect and build rapport with virtually anyone, at any time, because your mind is quieted from all the insecurities that distract us from the here-and-now.
Now, I wish that these six qualities made for a better acronym than “DR. CLAP”… but it is what it is.
The truth is, there may be more than six attractive, internal qualities, but no matter how many they are, when it comes to living your best life and embodying these internal characteristics, there’s only one way I know of.
The only way I know to embody them is to flip the “Psychological Switch”. When you do that, you’ll naturally fall into these states and embody these qualities, because in reality, they’re your natural, default state when the ‘Psychological Illusion’ is removed.
