People are trying to manipulate you all the time. And when you’re unconscious (meaning, unaware of your thinking and feeling), you sometimes try to manipulate others too.
Here are some common examples that we all face every day :
- Social Media & Mainstream Media – they’re constantly trying to delude us in to giving them our attention, so that they can profit from it. The seduce us with the idea that we must be ‘informed’ about what’s happening in the world, or we’ll “miss out!”
- Kids & their Tantrums – kids will often threaten to throw a tantrum unless we do what they want… and to avoid the embarrassment of them acting like this in front of others, or to avoid the drama, we sometimes give into their demands… or lash out at them in response
- Partners who can ‘explode’ – some of us find ourselves walking on egg-shells around our partners or family members, because there’s an almost-constant threat of them ‘exploding’ with anger or other negative behaviour, if things don’t go their way
- Wives & double-binds – in my experience, women tend to use this one more often than men in their relationships. A double bind is where you leave the other person in a damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t situation. Eg. You never buy me flowers. Then when he buys them the next day: “You only bought them because I told you to!”. Either way the guy loses and the woman keeps the story that he’s not good enough and needs to change
- Husbands & gaslighting – this is where the man displays bad behaviour, then blames the woman for it! For example, he might say to his wife, “You made me feel bad when you did XYZ, which is why I treated you badly. So really, it’s your fault I shouted – aren’t you going to apologize?!” (Like the double-binds, this can go both ways, but I hear a lot more about men doing it)
- Parents & Guilt Trips – we’re all familiar with this one. Sometimes a parent makes ridiculous demands on a son or daughter by threatening or implying that they would be a really bad person if they didn’t do this for their parent.
- And we’re barely even scratching the surface
In the last group coaching session I held (the recordings will be given to people who join the Nafs-Mastery program), I gave the ultimate solution and the way out of all of these emotional manipulation tactics.
When you implement the solution, you not only become ‘un-manipulatable’, but you also instantly stop unconsciously manipulating others. (Yes, because of your sneaky nafs playing tricks on you, you’re probably the victim and culprit of this at the same time).
The solution comes down to increasing your level of consciousness and I share 3 specific ways you can do that in the training:
1. Increase your level of “Prophetic Presence”
2. Use the “Inner Salam Method” the moment you notice a negative feeling arise
3. Flip the “Psychological Switch” – ie. wake up to the reality that no-one can cause your feelings and you can’t cause anyone elses – it’s always an inside-job. (This becomes obvious after you experiment with 1 & 2).
If you’d like to get your hands on the training that guides you through the entire process and eliminate the pointless drama of emotional manipulation from your life (no matter how cray-cray your family members have been acting around you), then sign up for the Nafs Mastery program here:
