Here’s a zinger from Shaykh Darqawi, the Moroccan spiritual master:
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“Occupy your self with what your Lord has commanded and not with your “self” (ego) when someone directs abuse towards you.
If you do not come to your own assistance, Allah, the Most High, will take care of your affair. If you come to your own assistance and take care of your affair yourself, Allah, the Transcendent, will let you take care of it. You have no power to do anything and ‘Allah has power over everything.’
Do not be occupied at all with the one who abuses you. Be occupied with Allah and Allah will drive them away from you. Allah is the One who makes them move against you, in order to test your claim to true sincerity.
Many people have erred in this matter. They give all their attention to the abuse of the abuser, so the abuse continues along with wrong action.
Had they turned to Allah, He would have driven them away from it all, and their proper business would have been enough for them.”
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Does this mean we accept abuse? Obviously not. The question is how we deal with it when it happens. If the evil words and actions someone takes against you take up all of your thinking and attention, that mental anguish may well be worse than the abuse itself.
As Don Miguel Ruiz pointed out: they abused you once, but you replayed it hundreds of times in your mind, abusing yourself over and over.
The “switched on” approach, fully aligned with the Islamic spiritual approach, is quite different.
Drop all thinking and attention you’ve been giving to them. Stop making them someone worthy of your attention and stop doing ‘zikr’ of them. Stop bringing them to mind. The only One who truly deserves your attention is Allah. You give it to Him by quieting your mind and you’ll find that you’re automatically filled with praise and gratitude and love and awareness of Allah.
Then, what becomes of the abuser? Do they get away with it? Are you letting them off the hook?
Heck no! You’re letting Allah deal with them, in the world of form. That could be through your own logistical action. It could be through calling for help. It could simply be walking out the door. And you’ll be surprise how often Allah literally takes them out of your life, the moment you ‘drop’ them from your mind.
All of this will be easy, intuitive and almost a non-issue when your mind is clear and connected with Allah.
Bullies tend to never pick on people who are totally confident, internally strong and connected with Allah. They know they will quickly come to regret it. However, they tend find people with insecurity, like a shark finds blood in water.
Does that seem too hard to do? Too risky in your situation? To drop all your insecurity and concern about them? Have they gone too far and have you taken too much grief off them already?
These types of situations are extremely difficult when you’re ‘in the dark’, lost in the Psychological illusion. And they don’t even register as a ‘big deal’ when you’re in the light of the Psychological Reality.
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