The #1 most important thing to understand about relationships, especially if you’re in the phase of finding a spouse is this:
Attraction is not a choice.
What this means, if you’re a guy, is:
If she’s not attracted to you, then there is nothing you can do about it.
And…
If she is attracted to you, there is nothing she can do about it.
Think about it – ever wonder why even really good, practicing, intelligent Muslim women end up swooning over guys who are not good for them in any way – the stereotypical ‘bad boyz’…?
And on the flip side – ladies, correct me if I’m wrong – even if we arranged for her to meet a perfectly good man, with a good job, who is a polite, well-mannered, conscious Muslim, if she’s not attracted to him, it just won’t work. She just can’t ‘force’ herself to be into him, even though she knows that on paper, he would be a great match.
Well, the good news is, there are a few specific things that women find irresistibly attractive in men. If a man demonstrates them, a woman will notice. And, if he doesn’t demonstrate them, it doesn’t matter how much of a ‘catch’ you are, no woman will give you a second look.
If you’re a guy who is looking to get married, and you’re talking to a potential, you need to learn these things, embody them, and conscientiously use them with her.
If you haven’t found anyone yet, demonstrating just one or two of these things has had brothers at marriage events walk away with a LOT more interest (and follow-ups) from even the most attractive and interesting women.
If you’re a married man, do the single brothers a favour and forward this on to them, because I’m going to outline each of these ‘attractive’ qualities specifically in our upcoming web-class this Thursday insha’Allah.
Here’s where to go to free yourself:
Meet Her & Marry Her – How To Find, Attract & Marry Your “Dream Wife”
P.S. Single Ladies: You’re welcome to attend the class, and see if you corroborate about the simple, but powerfully ‘attractive’ things you’d love to see the man you’re talking with do. But note: on this particular class, the gentlemen will get all their questions answered first.
