Tattoo this powerful question to your brain, before do make another move.
We all find ourselves in tricky situations, especially with family.
A relative is acting up. A loved one lets you down. A partner isn’t there for you when you need them. You forget something important you promised to do. The list is endless.
Before rushing into judging, blaming and having a go at them (or yourself), try this instead.
Ask yourself:
“What would LOVE do?”
If you were the human embodiment of love, in this moment, what would your next move be?
You might find more wisdom, love and goodness pouring through you than you even knew was there.
You might even find yourself actually following the example of “rahmatan lil Alameen”, which means, “loving kindness for all the worlds”, a title the Allah, the Most Loving, gives to the Prophet Muhammad, peace & blessings upon him.
The secret to creating beautiful relationships that stand the test of time… indeed the test of eternity, is this:
When it comes to love, be a one-way street.
Don’t seek ‘love’ from other people. Fill yourself up with love directly from the Source – the All-Loving. And when you’re filled up, pour it out and give it to everyone and everything around you as much as you can.
Do what ‘Love’ would have you do in any given moment.
The only barrier that ever blocks this flow, is the illusion that love can come from somewhere other than Allah, through some mechanism other than the God-given power we call, ‘thought’.
As soon as that barrier comes up, we fill our minds with expectations and demands and requirements that other people are meant to fulfil, in order for us to feel ‘loved’. They inevitably can’t meet all of our made-up ‘love-criteria’. We feel negative. And all the while we’ve forgotten that the Source of Love is constantly immersing us in divine love.
More importantly, we’ve forgotten our mission, and the very purpose of our relationships:
To GIVE love.
Just like all the Prophets taught us, peace & blessings upon them.
If you’re ready for in-depth training on how to overcome the barriers to becoming the most loving person you can possibly be, and seeing the impact that has on your partner, kids and your whole family, let’s begin: